It's 11:03 pm and I am blogging. Why? Because 1. I need your opinion, 2. I wonder if I'm alone in my thought process and 3. Johnny is fishing on the lake with his dad (the moon is full). Oh, and this may be TMI, so sorry in advance...
Today we went to Walmart and I picked up a feminine hygiene product, to have on hand. When we went to check out and as Johnny picks it up, he says, "I thought it was about time." Here's the reason this bothers me. Johnny has a theory that everything is PMS, (I know, TMI) it's either pre-, present, or post. That makes enough sense and I used to like that every time I was irritable with him, or anyone for that matter, he would attribute my behavior to that. Because then I was not accountable- it wasn't my fault, I couldn't help it. Well, lately things have been pretty stressful for us and it's made Johnny a little (lot) down. So I have been frustrated with him not really wanting to do anything- productive. He does want to fish though. haha So now that my "irritability" is geared toward him, he is blaming my PMS (which I do not have and NO I am NOT in denial). I think my irritability and frustration is somewhat warranted and legitimate. Let me correct myself- it's not irritability, it's irritations. Right?
So, tell me, should PMS be the culprit every time??? Can a woman be irritated without blaming PMS? Or should a man be held accountable for his behavior?
hmmmm Talk amongst yourselves...
You go, girl! This is a top complaint with females all over the world! You're not alone - Kyle does this too. The truth is that women are just so different from men. And, it sounds to me as if you just are handling whatever stress is occuring in a different way. But, don't worry... Johnny has eternity to figure this out.
ReplyDeleteOn another note, I'm sorry you're going through stressful times. If you ever need to talk, you know where to call... Or you can do what I do and just "blog it out!"
well I have not had "PMS" in quite some time but I have had "pregnancy/nursing" hormones though. BUT I have ALWAYS told Jake he cannot blame the way I feel on "hormones" or such b/c it doesn't validate my feelings and it just isn't fair. It seems men think that we are just riding our "emotional roller coaster" so there is no weight to our "irritations" because they think they are only brought on by the "hormones" and like your above friend said... you are not alone...
ReplyDeleteI am in full agreement! Brandon seems to think that anytime I cry it is because of hormones. Why can't I just be sad? Why can't I just be moved to tears by something beautiful? Why can't I punch him without getting arrested? (j/k on that one) Anyway, I think women are entitled to their feelings, whatever they may be, and men should accept these feelings as coming from their wife, and not their wife's cycle!
ReplyDeleteHa Ha. . .not to lessen your feelings in any way, I just think it's funny that all women go through the same thing. In my opinion only I can blame my irritability,moodiness etc. on PMS or hormones. Guys just need a reason for women to act like they do. It's never them and PMS/Pregnancy is a way for them to feel justified about why things are the way they are. Hope the situation improves soon. The end of nursing school is really stressful and it's hard when you're so busy with family,church and school.
ReplyDeleteAMEN, sister - you're preaching to the choir! Ray does the same thing.
ReplyDeleteSo funny...I too have contemplated this recently though Darin doesn't blame my moodiness or hormones, he just starts moving very quickly. K, so I thought to myself, "Heavenly Father created women and therefore there is purpose in PMS. (sorry I'm gettin' deep here.) What is the purpose? Then I thought, if it weren't for PMG I would be a real doormat! I think Heavenly Father wants us to let those emotions out or else we will always be taken advantage of." Now, I'm not justifying all actions on this time of the month, but I know that I get all of my issues out at once and then we're good for three weeks. Hope that helps ya Jill...those feelings are more than valid, they are warranted!
ReplyDeleteP.S. No, it's not that time for me..I just feel passionately about this. LOL
oops...sorry for my typos
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